Most of us take physical wound healing for granted. If we have a cut, we would not think twice to clean it, maybe bandage it and move on without thinking that underneath what our bodies ( if functioning to par ) marshal to heal: clot to stop the bleeding  (Hemostasis) , fight infection (Inflammation), send nutrients and oxygen for regrowth (Proliferation) and reorganize collagen to reduce scar thickness and increase wound strength (Remolding).   At the time of the injury, the

The best way to predict the future is to create it . ( Attributed to Abraham Lincoln, although Lincoln scholars have no proof of...

A droplet of water, while seemingly perfectly contained, transforms when it adheres to all other droplets before. The old status quo is...

For those who have decided to formally end to their marriage, there remains the question as to HOW . All divorce processes operate...

As is frequently acknowledged, divorce is experienced by many as a significantly stressful life event, just falling after the death of a...

Lewis Carroll's Queen of Hearts has a very efficient way to deal with any distress. Her solution is always the same: Off with their...

Sometimes, people start their work with me knowing that they have a problem but have not fit all the pieces together. It feels like the...

Challenging times continue. We are in a global high anxiety state and that has created some painful tension in relationships and families. One behavior that I have seen amplified is a tendency to quickly frustrate and reflexively act in emotionally charged situations. Have you ever written an email and then regretted your response? Not unusual in times of stress but often contrary to what we really need – connection and understanding. I hope, since you are reading this, th

At this time when what we have to give is so much about our most basic expression of humanity, I am thinking about kindness . Kindness...

It is a difficult time. The brevity of that statement belies the complex and novel circumstances that many of us are experiencing. While...

Recently I met with clients for a consultation. Neither could quite explain how it had gotten to the point that they required a meeting...

A problem occurs between you and someone you know well. Your first instinct is to avoid talking about it, telling yourself that it will...

In perhaps his best-known work, "Swimming to Cambodia," Spalding Gray, a monologist, described his obsession to have a "perfect moment."* Gray divulged that he had a tendency to fantasize about the life not lived -- the possibilities rather than the one that he was actually living. As Gray indicated: "What the monologues were doing therapeutically was reminding me that I did something else. And that story is constantly grounding me and saying 'But you have made these cho

When lilacs last in the dooryard bloom’d, And the great star early droop’d in the western sky in the night, I mourn’d, and yet shall...

Often, only in hindsight can we see the beginning. As we take stock of a year that has just passed and the vicissitudes of fortunes that...

No matter how accomplished we are, how planned our life has been, how generous or kind we are, at some point we will have to address...

Rodin's The Burghers of Calais. The dramatic and heart wrenching embodiment of suffering and resignation. Before this moment captured...

Parenting coordination can help parents make necessary parenting decisions. A parenting coordinator works with parents to: 1. Create...

I have a tree in my front yard that has become taller than any other. It is a Chinese Redwood given to me by my father as only a sapling...

Sometimes arguments take a life of their own, but most between family members or couples have a familiar rhythm. Watch this marital...