Abby Rosmarin Choice For those who have decided to formally end to their marriage, there remains the question as to HOW. All divorce processes operate within...
Abby Rosmarin Stay Focused. Be Realistic. Know Yourself. As is frequently acknowledged, divorce is experienced by many as a significantly stressful life event, just falling after the death of a...
Abby RosmarinThe Queen of Hearts Lewis Carroll's Queen of Hearts has a very efficient way to deal with any distress. Her solution is always the same: Off with their...
Abby RosmarinThe Problem Sometimes, people start their work with me knowing that they have a problem but have not fit all the pieces together. It feels like the...
Abby Rosmarinpause ............ before responding (something unexpected might emerge) Challenging times continue. We are in a global high anxiety state and that has created some painful tension in relationships and...
Abby RosmarinQ-tip: A brief thought while in quarantine. KINDNESSAt this time when what we have to give is so much about our most basic expression of humanity, I am thinking about kindness. Kindness is...
Abby RosmarinCo-parenting during COVID-19It is a difficult time. The brevity of that statement belies the complex and novel circumstances that many of us are experiencing. While...
Abby RosmarinIf only…Recently I met with clients for a consultation. Neither could quite explain how it had gotten to the point that they required a meeting...
Abby RosmarinOrientation Towards ConflictA problem occurs between you and someone you know well. Your first instinct is to avoid talking about it, telling yourself that it will...
Abby RosmarinPerfect MomentIn perhaps his best-known work, "Swimming to Cambodia," Spaulding Gray, a monologist, described his obsession to have a "perfect moment."*...
Abby RosmarinLilacsWhen lilacs last in the dooryard bloom’d, And the great star early droop’d in the western sky in the night, I mourn’d, and yet shall...
Abby RosmarinAll’s Well That Ends WellOften, only in hindsight can we see the beginning. As we take stock of a year that has just passed and the vicissitudes of fortunes that...
Abby RosmarinChange —— Let it Go ? ! ? !No matter how accomplished we are, how planned our life has been, how generous or kind we are, at some point we will have to address...
Abby RosmarinThe Burghers of Calais: Interest Based NegotiationsRodin's The Burghers of Calais. The dramatic and heart wrenching embodiment of suffering and resignation. Before this moment captured by...
Abby RosmarinParenting CoordinationParenting coordination can help parents make necessary parenting decisions. A parenting coordinator works with parents to: 1. Create...
Abby RosmarinMemoriesI have a tree in my front yard that has become taller than any other. It is a Chinese Redwood given to me by my father as only a sapling...
Abby RosmarinARGUMENTSSometimes arguments take a life of their own, but most between family members or couples have a familiar rhythm. Watch this marital...
Abby RosmarinPurposeI recently saw a performance at the Public Theater about Joan D' Arc. (Written by David Byrne of Talking Heads). It got me thinking about...
Abby RosmarinMediation: Mutual Problem SolvingCooperative behavior and the ability to read intentions of other people are increasingly believed by social psychologists, I think, to be...
Abby RosmarinChange is the only constantChange is the only constant Heraclitus Change is inevitable and is by its very nature not static. As such, are in a perpetual...