Choice
For those who have decided to formally end to their marriage, there remains the question as to HOW. All divorce processes operate within...
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Stay Focused. Be Realistic. Know Yourself.
As is frequently acknowledged, divorce is experienced by many as a significantly stressful life event, just falling after the death of a...
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The Queen of Hearts
Lewis Carroll's Queen of Hearts has a very efficient way to deal with any distress. Her solution is always the same: Off with their...
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The Problem
Sometimes, people start their work with me knowing that they have a problem but have not fit all the pieces together. It feels like the...
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pause ............ before responding (something unexpected might emerge)
Challenging times continue. We are in a global high anxiety state and that has created some painful tension in relationships and...
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Q-tip: A brief thought while in quarantine. KINDNESS
At this time when what we have to give is so much about our most basic expression of humanity, I am thinking about kindness. Kindness is...
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Co-parenting during COVID-19
It is a difficult time. The brevity of that statement belies the complex and novel circumstances that many of us are experiencing. While...
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If only…
Recently I met with clients for a consultation. Neither could quite explain how it had gotten to the point that they required a meeting...
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Orientation Towards Conflict
A problem occurs between you and someone you know well. Your first instinct is to avoid talking about it, telling yourself that it will...
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Perfect Moment
In perhaps his best-known work, "Swimming to Cambodia," Spaulding Gray, a monologist, described his obsession to have a "perfect moment."*...
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Lilacs
When lilacs last in the dooryard bloom’d, And the great star early droop’d in the western sky in the night, I mourn’d, and yet shall...
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All’s Well That Ends Well
Often, only in hindsight can we see the beginning. As we take stock of a year that has just passed and the vicissitudes of fortunes that...
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Change —— Let it Go ? ! ? !
No matter how accomplished we are, how planned our life has been, how generous or kind we are, at some point we will have to address...
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The Burghers of Calais: Interest Based Negotiations
Rodin's The Burghers of Calais. The dramatic and heart wrenching embodiment of suffering and resignation. Before this moment captured by...
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Parenting Coordination
Parenting coordination can help parents make necessary parenting decisions. A parenting coordinator works with parents to: 1. Create...
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Memories
I have a tree in my front yard that has become taller than any other. It is a Chinese Redwood given to me by my father as only a sapling...
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ARGUMENTS
Sometimes arguments take a life of their own, but most between family members or couples have a familiar rhythm. Watch this marital...
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Purpose
I recently saw a performance at the Public Theater about Joan D' Arc. (Written by David Byrne of Talking Heads). It got me thinking about...
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Mediation: Mutual Problem Solving
Cooperative behavior and the ability to read intentions of other people are increasingly believed by social psychologists, I think, to be...
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Change is the only constant
Change is the only constant Heraclitus Change is inevitable and is by its very nature not static. As such, are in a perpetual...