Choice
For those who have decided to formally end to their marriage, there remains the question as to HOW. All divorce processes operate within...
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Abby Rosmarin
The Queen of Hearts
Lewis Carroll's Queen of Hearts has a very efficient way to deal with any distress. Her solution is always the same: Off with their...
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The Problem
Sometimes, people start their work with me knowing that they have a problem but have not fit all the pieces together. It feels like the...
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pause ............ before responding (something unexpected might emerge)
Challenging times continue. We are in a global high anxiety state and that has created some painful tension in relationships and...
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Orientation Towards Conflict
A problem occurs between you and someone you know well. Your first instinct is to avoid talking about it, telling yourself that it will...
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All’s Well That Ends Well
Often, only in hindsight can we see the beginning. As we take stock of a year that has just passed and the vicissitudes of fortunes that...
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Change —— Let it Go ? ! ? !
No matter how accomplished we are, how planned our life has been, how generous or kind we are, at some point we will have to address...
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The Burghers of Calais: Interest Based Negotiations
Rodin's The Burghers of Calais. The dramatic and heart wrenching embodiment of suffering and resignation. Before this moment captured by...
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Parenting Coordination
Parenting coordination can help parents make necessary parenting decisions. A parenting coordinator works with parents to: 1. Create...
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Mediation: Mutual Problem Solving
Cooperative behavior and the ability to read intentions of other people are increasingly believed by social psychologists, I think, to be...
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What’s love got to do with it?
The more I am confounded by life, the more I try to rely on Eric Fromm’s words: “Love is the only sane and satisfactory answer to the...
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Look Beyond Borders
I recently watched this incredible short film, Look Beyond Borders, that recorded people looking into another’s eyes based on the premise...
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Forgiveness
“Forgiveness is what has let us live again” remarked a young Xhosa man named Koyisha with pride as he showed one type of living...
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Understanding
A new year and a time to recommit. I reflect on the work of Dr. Sherwin Nuland, clinician, professor of bioethics, and author of How We...
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Parenting Plans
A recent NY times opinion, How Divorced Parents Lost Their Rights, the author indicated that “as compared litigation and mediation, six...
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Family Support of a Discharge Plan
Hospital discharge plans can be compromised because of lack of family support. This can create the condition for multiple admissions and...
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Happiness is Love
Seventy five years in the making, the longitudinal study of 268 male Harvard undergraduates, called the Grant Study of Adult Development...
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Generosity
A recent NYT Magazine Cover article, Is Giving the Secret to Getting Ahead? discusses the work of Adam Grant, whose work focuses on...
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Unconscious Bias
Research has confirmed what many of us may already know: we are far better at spotting bias in others than in ourselves. While we may...
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Self
“He conquers who conquers himself” counseled 70 year old Rodriquez the other night as he began his set. Rodriquez, the singer/song writer...